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🎥 Emotional Intelligence
🎙️ “We often hear this line: Beta, padhai mein top karo, life set ho jayegi.
But if that were true, why do we see toppers struggling while average students sometimes become business leaders, IAS officers, or even celebrities?
The truth is — marks and IQ alone don’t decide your success. What really makes the difference is something called Emotional Intelligence, or EQ.
Today, I’ll take you through Daniel Goleman’s classic book ‘Emotional Intelligence: Why It Can Matter More Than IQ’ and explain how EQ shapes your career, relationships, and happiness. And of course, I’ll share relatable Indian examples at every step.”
- IQ = logical thinking, solving puzzles, academics.
- EQ = understanding and managing emotions in yourself and others.
- Goleman found that IQ contributes only 20% to success; the rest comes from EQ and other factors.
📌 Example: Ritesh Agarwal, founder of OYO, didn’t even finish college, yet built a billion-dollar startup. Why? Because of EQ — networking, vision, handling stress, and motivating people.
So remember, IQ may get you a job, but EQ gets you growth and leadership.
1️⃣ Self-Awareness
Ability to recognize your emotions, strengths, weaknesses.
📌 Example: A UPSC aspirant in Delhi realizes that scrolling social media before exams makes him anxious. Instead of ignoring it, he deletes apps during preparation. That awareness gives him control.
👉 Tip: Start journaling emotions daily.
2️⃣ Self-Regulation
- Controlling impulsive reactions, staying calm under pressure.
📌 Example: In a Jaipur office, a boss scolds an employee harshly. One employee argues back in anger and damages his reputation. Another stays calm, listens, and later clarifies politely. The calm one shows higher EQ.
👉 Tip: Pause and count to 5 before reacting.
3️⃣ Motivation
- Drive to achieve beyond money or rewards.
📌 Example: M.S. Dhoni, from a small town in Ranchi, had no big facilities. But his inner motivation kept him practicing and learning. Today, he’s India’s most successful cricket captain.
👉 Tip: Set goals that excite you, not just ones that pay.
4️⃣ Empathy
- Understanding others’ emotions.
📌 Example: A teacher in Lucknow notices a student is quiet. Instead of punishing, she asks gently and finds family issues. She supports him, which changes his performance. That’s empathy in action.
👉 Tip: In any conversation, listen to feelings, not just words.
5️⃣ Social Skills
- Communicating well, resolving conflicts, building trust.
📌 Example: Dr. A.P.J. Abdul Kalam inspired millions not only with his knowledge but with his humility, kindness, and people skills. That’s why he is remembered as the People’s President.
👉 Tip: Learn to appreciate, encourage, and resolve differences peacefully.
Why EQ Matters More Than IQ
- EQ helps in leadership, teamwork, and stress management.
- Research shows 90% of top performers in companies have high EQ.
📌 Example: In a Mumbai startup, a crisis happens. One manager panics, blames others, and loses team trust. Another manager keeps calm, motivates the team, and works together to solve it. The second manager wins loyalty and success — that’s EQ in real life.
How to Develop EQ
- Mindfulness: 5 minutes of meditation daily.
- Pause before reacting: Don’t reply in anger instantly.
- Active Listening: Listen fully, don’t interrupt.
- Journaling: Write your emotional ups and downs.
- Feedback: Ask friends or colleagues how you react under stress.
📌 Example: A college student in Pune started journaling every night. Within 3 months, he noticed he was calmer, more confident, and performing better in group discussions.
EQ in Children & Families
- EQ must be taught from childhood.
📌 Example: Some Indian schools now teach meditation and “circle talks” where children share their feelings. This reduces bullying and improves focus.
In families too, EQ matters. Parents who listen with empathy build stronger bonds with their kids than those who only lecture.
Conclusion – Final Message
🎙️ “So, message is simple: Your IQ may open doors, but your EQ keeps you inside the room of success.
Emotional Intelligence helps you handle pressure, connect with people, and live a more balanced, happy life.
So start today — be aware of your emotions, regulate them, show empathy, and build strong social connections. That’s the true secret to success.